The Mind Game of Being the Desirable Guy

dHave you ever wondered why some guys are more in demand that people often overlook the other guys and just focus on that particular guy? Why even though that guy is doing nothing still people are always interested in him and want to be with him. Now the question is why people like them so much and what is it that puts these guys at par from the rest of male group. The answer is pretty simple. All these attractive guys have some common traits, which any male can attain. However, it depends from guy to guy how they attain the traits. While some traits are easy to attain whereas, the others are quite difficult. The game of being desirable is all about mind games and how you apply the following self improvement tips in your life. Of course, the physical attributes also play significant roles; after all, many of us judge things with eyes before the mind. So, anything that looks good to the eyes makes a good impression on one’s mind. But it is not always the looks; sometimes there are

How To Survive Widowhood

24Widowhood is a tough experience that no one wants to go through. Unfortunately, many women found themselves in this position and have absolutely no idea how to deal with the pain of losing someone dear to them. While having someone close to you die is a terrible experience, it does not mean you have to sit all day long in your bed, not do your chores and forget about the kids. It also does not mean you have to be string for others. It is okay to mourn the loss of your husband and it is also completely understandable. But sitting in bed for 3 months will not bring you any alleviation.

Here is how you can survive widowhood:

    • Mourn – take your time to mourn. Take as much time as you need. Let yourself cry. Be alone. Cry, yell and punch things. Let yourself crush, only to rise again, stronger and bolder. Do what is necessary to regain yourself and to take control of your life. Do not be strong for others. Be strong for yourself.
    • Learn to love the loneliness – it will take

How I Found Success At Last

weOh my goodness. This was a life-changer that I learned in a workshop, the short course that changed the course of my life.

I met my love after 5 years of being single and feeling more and more lonely, till that fated evening when I found out what I really wanted in a partner. And soon enough, I was in a steady relationship, totally in love, and finally married. It is the second and last time, for good reasons, of course. Curious about how we met? If for you or someone you know, here is the exercise I learned in a special romance workshop. It worked, and we have now been married for over 7 years, together for over 14.

Step 1: Get a pen and paper, whiteboard, or notebook on your device, and write down the 10 qualities that are most important to you in a partner. And remember, this is to help you move forward, so no cheating! For example, “attractive, tall, green eyes, black hair, athletic” does not count as one quality but 5. And “kind, generous, loyal” is 3 qualities, not 1.

The Secret To Male Seduction

mYou may already know that some women have an X-Factor that most women don’t. These women are able to effortlessly command the attention of all those around them. They aren’t necessarily stunningly beautiful women but they have a quality about them that makes them alluring and enticing to say the least.

This quality is more than just confidence, confidence doesn’t sum it up. To be fair there isn’t really an adjective to summarize their magnetism. So you can’t aspire to be this one quality.

What these women are doing that given you are reading this article, you most probably aren’t is being their true selves.

These women aren’t living in fear, they aren’t following someone else’s lead or hoping someone will love them. They aren’t putting others before themselves, they believe they deserve happiness and great things and they don’t have a problem accepting them or feel surprised when good things occur in their lives.

These women have a positive energy. They believe in abundance, they feel they are worthy of good things and have value. They would never allow a man to treat them badly or

Meeting The High Priestess

4I met Sibilla Vestali a few years ago, in India. She was a strong and attractive woman with a deep and penetrating gaze. Immediately, a good chemistry started between us, spiced with joy and abandon. She did not say who she was, or had been; our conversations were light and mostly random and related to the culture and characters of the place we were. It was after a number of walks, swims, meditations, dinners, dancing, and laughter that she told me to be looking for someone to be entrusted with a secret document, a document that had never been revealed to the world so far; an ancient document that testified to the humanity’s most intimate soul and of which she was one of the predestined keepers.

I was curious, but not enough to insist. I’m convinced that when people want to tell you something, there’s no need to insist or pull it out like a good cork from a bottle of good wine. I let her be what she was and manifests according to her own terms and times. It was a good decision. Early

Why Should She Respect You If You Have Nothing To Offer?

32In reality though the real reason why she does not respect you is because of this!

You have nothing to offer as far as getting your life together.

Yes getting yourself together for yourself so that they will notice you, crave your attention, be around you. When you got yourself together you feel better, look better and command respect.

Women like to talk smack and make you feel bad about your manliness but do not fall for this nonsense because they do want a man who acts like a man, does things like men and can handle himself in any situation without falling to their knees and giving up!

By nature women need to be with men and men need to be with women.

Women also want a man who has resources, which is why Rich Men always do better with the women than Poor Men. There is no turning this around as this is how Nature works. The one with the most resources gets to breed while the one who has no resources is left watching on the sidelines.

Do me the favor and stop rolling over like

Fear of Being Single and How to Overcome It

1Do you ever fear of being single forever? This fear of being single is so widespread that in our day to day life someone or the other is either trying to find someone, or forget someone or deal with someone. The desire to be with someone and being loved is one of the most fundamental human needs. And when a person is afraid of being single, he has a nagging feeling that he is destined to be alone forever, or maybe he is full of flaws. But this is just a fear and not a reality. You must know that you are a worthy person and deserved to be loved. Don’t let fear of being single guide your life.

Start with being gentle with yourself…

There is an inner-voice in us that constantly analyses everything about our life. We engage in positive and negative self-talks that has an impact on our feelings. So when your inner voice says discouraging things such as, “I am so stupid”, “I am ugly”, “I always mess things up” and the like, your insecurity increases and you start believing

You’re Made for More, You’re Made As Love

lkIt’s time for My queens to arise. It’s time for My girls to stand and take their place. When a woman speaks all stand in attention. She shall speak with strength and I will show Myself through her words. I long to fill your life and I long to serve your desires. I AM your Love. You are my life.

When the queen walks in the room, all stand to attention more than even the king. They respect and honor her above all, for life comes out of her. She carries herself with honor and dignity, she reigns in righteousness and truth. She rules with honesty and love and she executes judgment because of love. She grows in dignity and strength from the love of her King. She is molded into the image of the heart of the Father.

The world stands in attention to a lady that is crowed with My love, that walks in the newness of life that I provided for her. I AM the light she walks in, I AM her beauty and I AM the glow that shines from within

Stop Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places

wFrom our early teens we all have our own idea of what love is; the one thing that is not in conflict is everyone begins searching for it. Is there a method to the madness of chasing something that for many seems elusive? Are you one of those people who always seem to feel you have somehow landed or fallen for the wrong person, leaving you on the hurting end of love? There are some guidelines that do more than make sense.

1) If you don’t want a partner who drinks or parties, don’t go to a bar, nightclub or racy party to meet one. Confine your serious search to workplaces, local gatherings, restaurants and other random opportunities.

2) If cheaters don’t appeal to you, refuse to be involved with anyone who is cheating on someone else to be with you. If you attempt to fool yourself into believing they love you too much to do that, understand that is what their current partner thought. Cheaters cheat.

3) Hate deceitful people? Don’t gloss over untruthful statements your partner is inclined to make. They are not small

Love Unfurls With A Legacy Of Death

kWomen are the symbol of strength. They are the powerful phoenix who can rise from their own ashes. They can fight with the world with strong mental stability. Until today, that beautiful typecast and the hardcore truth has not malformed. Our life shows different shades of battle, love, compromise, faith, and devotion but the last destination that remains the only magnanimous fact for a woman is to become an example of love to the world. She will be the weakness and she will be the strength of a person. It is in your hands whether you take her in positive or in a pessimistic aspect. Every coin has two sides, and so does a female’s personality. It is very wrong to judge her just because she wants to stay with someone perpetually and wants to own every single moment with her favourite person.

When she is in love, she sets him free. It can be a friend, a partner, parents, or her own self. We understand this but we also want that part which belongs to us alone. Loving a person or an animal

I’m in Love and Always Will Be

pI have never been in love or at least, I used to think so.

I thought that being in love meant that feeling that made you want to get up every morning and sing at the top of your lungs. Or the proverbial butterflies flitting like mad at the pit of your stomach. Or that tingly sensation that spread a shower of warmth all the way down to your toes.

Like every other person on the planet, I was locked in the mindset and thought I could only be in love with a “special someone” who made me realized there was more to that “feeling” than what everybody thought.

Being in love can be flexible. It doesn’t have to be exclusively romantic. Love can come in all forms, even those we can’t begin to understand. It is not just about happily ever afters and fireworks. The pain, rejection, despair, and disappointments are very much a part of it. They actually make being in love so real and special. Some people have spent lifetimes tilting at windmills and chasing rainbows, searching for the greatest romance ever known

Love and Forgiveness Is The Most Important Piece in Improving Our Relationships With Our Loved Ones

2The extension of Love and Forgiveness is the only path to true and lasting happiness.

In order for anyone of us to truly be happy, we have to monitor our thoughts and the projection of our feelings to the people that we are interacting with. It is in our ego’s nature to see what we are thinking and feeling in those individuals that we are interacting with. We project our inner self to our loved ones, our friends and colleagues. So, if we fill ourselves with love and compassion, this will be all that we will extend to the people that we interacting with.

The following two quotes put this whole idea in perspective: “Love alone is capable of uniting living beings in such a way as to complete and fulfill them. It alone takes them and joins them by what is deepest in themselves.” By Pierre Teilbard de Chardin

“We do not love people so much for the good they have done us, as for the good we have done them.” By Leo Tolstoy

We live in illusion that we are separate from one another and

Learn the Essence of the 5 Love Languages

33Love is a very powerful thing and conveying the language of love is easier said than done. Are you willing to go through all that? Would you desire to learn and connect with people and set up strong and reliable linkages? Then the 5 love languages can help you along the way.

What are the 5 love languages? There many ways to express love and its beauty. The more that people learn about love, the better. The five languages consists of Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.

Let us learn these methods one by one. For the words of affirmation, it is a way for each and every one of us to appreciate the person’s work and sacrifices. Although it is not always common for us to appreciate the hardwork of others, this trait however can help in strengthening relationships.

The second language is the acts of service. This is the type of love that promotes actions. It does not linger of passive works but on active ones. Helping your family in cleaning out the garbage, washing the car,

When We Say I Do & The Simple Things

3tHello sweetness! Do you really understand how much joy and happiness you bring to my world? I just have to let you know how lucky of a man I am to have you in my life. Words can hardly express how much you truly mean to me, but allow me to try anyway. I love you more than any man could ever love a woman! So overjoyed that I’m the one who gets to put that pretty smile on your face. You are super-sexy and indeed a most attractive and vivacious lady! I treasure the idea of you and I spending quality time together in any situation. It delights my imagination to no end, at the mere thought of you in my arms, holding you so close and expressing my appreciation for this love most special we share. I would do anything with you, for you or to you that strengthens our bond and brings us closer!

Fellows, if you’re not expressing these sentiments to the gift GOD blessed you with, (your wife or significant-other), then you are definitely sowing the seeds of neglect! This

Love and Abuse

3rLove, what a wonderful word. A word that can bring a smile to your lips, a tear to your eyes and make your heart skip a beat. Love can bring a tear when reminiscing or a stab in your heart when you remember the pain. This one word can bring such joy and such sorrow at different times in your life.

The positive side of love brings memories of holding hands, soft kisses, shared dinners, family time, smiling children, holidays and a lifetime of fun. A fleeting moment can bring joy to your heart when reminiscing can last a lifetime. The joy of a grandmother and granddaughter playing a game, the first moment you hold your newborn, the first time you kiss a partner, the first glimpse of that special person as you reminisce over the years. Love brings us many positive situations of giving and receiving, of sharing bringing a depth to our lives like nothing else can. It brings joy, laughter, growth and experiences. It gives us the much needed push to move forward and to build.

The negative side of love brings

Do You Remember Your High School Love? She Is Back, Is It Love or Lust?

eeA few days later, she accepts your invitation and you chat for a while catching up on good times and the thirty years that have gone by. You tell yourself there is nothing wrong with chatting with a long-lost friend, she has a boyfriend and she is getting married and you, even though your marriage is going through a tough moment, love your wife. You chat a couple more times talking about your jobs, the children, mutual friends, everything is completely innocent but inside the pressure is building and nobody when and where it will rise to the surface.

She lives in another country but visits her sister who lives in your city several times a year. The next time you meet online, you ask if you can call her and she immediately send her number. You dial and there she is, a voice from the past, your heart skips a couple of beats, you try to speak and nothing comes out of your mouth or your brain. Suddenly lights explode in your head and you realize that you have missed this woman for

Loving The Right Way Avoids A Crop Failure

eWe all have our perspective on how love should look, feel and be. It stems from how we were taught it should be or the polar opposite. We may take our early lessons of love and indoctrinate them as the meaning for ourselves or we may find that, what we were taught love to be, doesn’t fit our lives today, so we make adjustments. No matter how you come to the definition of love you live by, there are two aspects of love, what love looks like and the actions or behaviors of it, that we must understand, in order to love the right way.

First, in order to understand the fullness of it, we have to know the attributes of it. What it looks like; what it does and doesn’t do. The bible gives us these attributes in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight

The Death of Love and the Life of Love Beyond

lWE’VE all been there, I presume… to the death of love.

My hope is you’ve been to the other side, too… to the hope that lies beyond such a death. If you haven’t, my hope is you keep pressing in, keep believing, and keep pursuing the hope of a life of love beyond its death.

The death of love is the grief experienced in the tragedy of loss. We can posit it as a romance, but love is more cavernous than that. Love fills the hope of all our lives, and to bound it to a romance story is to lose vital essences of a thing everyone needs.

Does it die and stay dead, implicating the greatness of grief, or does the life of love beyond it spur a person on? Sometimes it truly has gone. And to believe that, to enter that reality, allowing that passage through pain, to not deny it, is a courage that deserves a second chance.

The life of love beyond a love that died is your destiny. It’s everyone’s destiny, whether in this life or in the life to come (if it’s

How to Let Go and Open Your Heart for a New Love

indexA heartbreak is a devastating experience that could leave a person broken and unable to move on. To prevent experiencing the pain of another heartbreak, a person may avoid falling in love again. Love is the most wonderful experience that any person should not avoid. As Lord Tennyson once said, “Tis better to have loved and lost, than not to have loved at all.” In finding love again after a heartbreak, there are things that you should know to be able to move on, let go and find a new love.

Accept that getting hurt is part of loving someone. First heartbreak is often the most devastating but it doesn’t mean that the next one will be less painful but we learn from our heartbreak and became stronger. Of course you are not anticipating another heartbreak but the thing is, it is inevitable and every time we fall in love there is a possibility to get hurt. Accept that getting hurt is part of loving and the fear of experiencing the pain of loving someone should not hinder you from finding love again after

Why Are Singles Singled Out

fScanning local media I am impressed by the choice of tempting short break holidays on offer. Up for grabs are three days in Valencia for €95 and for just €15 more for similar in Madrid. I hope we won’t hear criticisms of tour companies that offer such good value for money.

In the UK 29% of homes have only one person resident; a total of 7.6 million. Why would it be different on the Costas? I wonder if convention excludes many thousands of singles from taking advantage of these offers. Being single but not unsociable I am envious of those who, with their arm-candy, occasionally take advantage of such breaks, night outs and restaurant tête-à-tête. Try it on your own.

Of course there are many singles whose status is not necessarily by choice; widowed, divorced, plain, ugly or plain ugly; maybe known to be cantankerous on occasion. They still deserve and need company. Why can’t they be loved too?

Several years ago I missed occasional company of skirt but had no wish to change my single status. I signed up to a holidays for a singles